For many families, the festive season is reserved for family gatherings and a heightened focus on togetherness. For individuals, this is also a time of reflection as another year approaches its end.
For couples grappling with marital discord, this period can amplify existing tensions. However, most of these couples wouldn’t want to interfere with the festive season’s agenda with news of separation. Instead, they would rather postpone their decision until after the holidays. This means starting the new year with a fresh chapter.
Why delay divorce until after the holidays?
The holiday season carries immense emotional and cultural significance. Parents often prioritize:
- Creating positive memories
- Maintaining a sense of normalcy
- Reinforcing old and new traditions for the next generation
The thought of disrupting the holidays with the announcement of a divorce can feel untimely, overwhelming or selfish.
Additionally, the holidays can serve as a hopeful period for reconciliation. Couples might view the season as an opportunity to repair their relationship. Optimistic spouses might hope to:
- Rekindle their affection
- Resolve outstanding issues
- Rediscover why they got married
Unfortunately, shared experiences and goodwill might not be enough to piece back together what’s broken. When the holidays fail to bring about these changes, the decision to divorce may feel more resolute as the new year begins.
Steps to take when considering divorce in the New Year
Couples who’ve decided to end their marriage at the dawn of a new year can take steps to ease the process. First and foremost, couples should ascertain that this is truly what they want. After all, divorce is a life-changing undertaking; the last thing couples want to grapple with is regret once the proceedings begin.
Once a couple is certain about ending their marriage, each party can benefit from learning how divorce proceedings play out. Anticipating the process can allow each party to prepare for any challenges. If children are involved, couples should consider the kids’ emotional needs. Prioritizing open, age-appropriate communication can help the children process the news.
Couples planning to file for divorce in January can benefit from seeking legal support before the New Year. This way, they can have the support they need to make this important life transition.