When you get divorced, it is good to put your children first. For parents, this often means transitioning into a new role as co-parents. They have to consider how they are going to communicate, how they’ll exchange time with the child, how to split up different parenting responsibilities, and much more.
People are sometimes daunted by this process. They may be worried that they won’t be effective co-parents or that this will have a major negative impact on their children. But the truth is that you may actually be a better co-parent after your divorce than you were a parent during your marriage.
Why would this happen?
One reason why this could happen is if you and your spouse are involved in a high level of conflict. Maybe you constantly have disagreements or arguments. This just makes your living situation very stressful. What studies have found is that it’s better for children if their parents get divorced, in many cases, so that the children don’t have to live in a high-stress household.
But that divorce doesn’t just benefit the children. It also removes this constant level of stress from you and your ex. You get a chance to reassess things and create the life that you really want for yourself. As the conflict level goes down, both you and your ex may end up being better co-parents because you get to spend time with your children individually. In this way, divorce could be a positive event for you and the kids.
If you are going to get a divorce as a parent, just make sure you are well aware of all of your rights and the steps you need to take.