Parent-to-parent communication in the wake of divorce can be challenging, but it is vital for the well-being of the children involved. When co-parents communicate well, they can make important decisions together, share information and resolve conflicts in a healthy way.
Since you and your spouse probably share a desire to improve your discussions, consider trying some of the following tips for healthy co-parent communications.
1. Set some rules
Agree on some basic ground rules for communication, such as avoiding personal matters and staying on topic. Gently remind each other of these rules when a conversation becomes unproductive.
2. Choose a preferred method
If you have trouble communicating face-to-face or over the phone, consider using texts, emails or a co-parenting app. Find a method you are both comfortable using, preferably one that facilitates effective communication.
3. Designate a time or place
A good way to keep your discussions on topic is to designate when and (or) where you will talk together about your children. This approach empowers both parents to prepare in advance for child-related discussions and may prevent distractions.
4. Encourage child communications
Healthy communication is not just for co-parents—children can also get in on the act. Encourage your kids to share their thoughts, worries and feelings with both of you.
5. Practice patience and understanding
It takes time and effort to develop a healthy co-parenting relationship. Be patient with yourself and your co-parent, and try not to expect to get everything right every time you talk.
Communicating effectively with your co-parent may not always be easy, but it is worth the effort. Your kids are more likely to flourish after your divorce when they see their parents communicate with each other respectfully and thoughtfully. Following these tips may also make it easier to find solutions for custody or support matters under Texas family laws.