Every relationship is different, and this includes co-parenting relationships. There is no formula that is guaranteed to work for every single parenting team.
Post-divorce, it can be tricky to adjust and get along with your co-parent, but it’s essential that you at least try to remain civil for the children. In some cases, co-parents even go on to become good friends. Outlined below are a few signs that friendship with your co-parent could be a possibility:
The romantic feelings are gone, but love remains
Your marriage wasn’t perfect, but it was always peaceful. You and your ex didn’t really fight, the romantic feelings just fizzled out. Now, you both look at each other with a fondness, but it is not founded upon romantic feelings. You’d be happy for them to meet someone else and find true happiness, and they feel the same way about you.
As long as the romantic feelings are gone and there is no confusion, you and your co-parent could have a good foundation for friendship post-divorce.
You’ve avoided publicly disparaging each other during the divorce
There is no escaping social media in today’s society. This is a useful tool, but it also has the potential to cause issues. There’s a reason why it’s advisable to stay off of social media during a divorce – since you never know who is looking.
One misplaced comment or misinterpreted picture could be enough to spark off a row. If you and your ex have refrained from talking about the divorce on social media, then you may be set up to start the co-parenting relationship on friendly terms.
Of course, friendship with an ex-spouse is not always feasible. You may want to take a more practical approach to co-parenting. There are no right or wrong answers, you just have to do what’s right for your situation. Having legal guidance can help you discover methods of co-parenting that suit your dynamic.