Whatever age your children are, if you are considering divorce, you probably worry that they are at the wrong age. There is no ideal age for your children, and even if there were, finding a time that suits all your children is probably impossible.
Divorce will always cause some disruption in areas of their life, such as schooling and friendships. They will always find the changes at home difficult and they will always get sad or angry about it at times. But with the right help, they will cope, whatever age they are.
It’s probably best to do it now
If you have decided that your marriage needs to end, you may as well get it over with. Hanging in there is unlikely to improve things, and it could worsen them, as arguments could arise if you feel trapped. You probably shouldn’t do it right before their final exams, however.
If abuse is one of the reasons you are divorcing, then it’s definitely a case of the sooner, the better.
The sooner you divorce, the sooner you can begin living the new version of life you seek and the sooner your children can start to adjust to the new reality.
Rather than focusing on the right time, you should focus on the right way to divorce. While there are marriages where litigation is the best option, in most cases, couples and their children would be much better served by mediation or collaborative law. Working together will make your co-parenting relationship easier, and the better that relationship is, the better your child will get over the divorce.