Many divorcing parents try to get as much time with their children as possible. It is understandable, as when you are used to spending as much time as you want with your kids, the thought of someone restricting it can be tough.
Yet you need to remember that your spouse also has a right to spend time with the children. What’s more, your child has a right to spend time with both of you, and as you can no longer all live together, you need to facilitate that as best you can.
Rather than focusing on the downside of not being able to see your child when you want, try focusing on the upsides of the free time it will gain you. Here are some benefits to consider:
#1. You get time to work
You may well need to up your income to cope with running a household alone. Knowing your child will be safe with their other parent for a certain amount of time each week leaves you free to focus on earning.
#2. You get time to do nothing
When was the last time you did nothing? Absolutely nothing, with no fear of a small child disturbing you by asking for breakfast or a teenager calling to ask for a lift as they missed the last transport home? Knowing no one will put demands on your time for a few days each week is a luxury many single parents would love to have.
#3. You get time for a social life
Even if you are not ready to start dating again, you will have time to catch up with friends, take an evening class and do all those other things you might not have been able to do since you became a parent.
Divorce won’t be easy, but if you’ve made the decision, then it’s probably for the best, and a fair split of time with the kids can help you make the most of your new situation.