It can sometimes be difficult for parents to come up with a custody solution that doesn’t disrupt their children’s lives. They may not like the idea of moving back and forth from one home to the other. They may feel like they don’t have enough stability or they may simply not enjoy the unsettled feeling that can come along with it.
If you’ve been wondering about this, you may want to consider bird nesting. After your divorce, this is a potential solution that gives the children more stability. You still get to share custody, but you do it in a unique way.
Sharing the home
Bird nesting works by allowing the children to stay in a single home. If you and your co-parent already own your family home, for instance, you don’t have to sell it and the children don’t have to move.
You’re still getting divorced, of course, so you don’t want to live with your ex. You and your ex find other places to live, and then you create a custody schedule. When it’s your turn to be with the children, you move back into the home with them. When it’s your ex’s turn, you move out of the house and live in the secondary location, while your ex lives in the home with the children.
This can be difficult for numerous reasons, including the fact that you and your ex are still going to have to share spaces and communicate frequently to make it happen. Therefore, it’s not for everyone. However, couples who remain on generally good terms may be interested in this while looking into other custody options that will work for their family.