If a marriage is not working, there is no reason to continue the relationship. In fact, ending your marriage may make you and your spouse better co-parents in the future.
Look at your relationship with your ex-spouse as developing into something new and better for your family as you become successful co-parents to your children. Following the tips below may help ensure you have a successful transition from spouses to co-parents.
Address your emotions independently
You may be experiencing a variety of emotions that come with your divorce. These are normal, but you should ensure you address them in a healthy way so they do not interfere with your new role as a co-parent. It could be beneficial to speak with a professional therapist or rely on your support networks, such as friends and family.
Figure out new, effective ways of communicating
You may have struggled to communicate with your former spouse when you were together, but it is imperative that you find new and more effective ways of communicating to ensure a positive co-parenting relationship. For instance, it could be helpful to create a collaborative schedule, so you can avoid confusion about whose house your children should be at each weekend.
Put your children first
It is important to remember that just as you and your former spouse are making this transition, your children are experiencing the transition as well. They will likely experience confusing emotions, and you should be there for them as much as possible to ease the transition. While you may have your own conflicting emotions about your former spouse, present a positive attitude about them to your children.
The transition may take time and adjustments, but with the right mindset and effort, you and your former spouse can become effective co-parents to your children.