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Why your kids should never hear the worst things about your ex

On Behalf of | Dec 17, 2021 | Co-Parenting

You likely have some very choice words about your ex. Divorce often heightens emotions. Now that you have separated from them, your perspective on them and your relationship has likely changed.

It is normal and healthy to want an outlet for those strong emotions. However, it’s important to realize that your children should not be the ones you vent to about their other parent.

Negative talk could lead the claims of parental alienation

Some parents will intentionally try to damage the relationship that their ex has with their kids after a divorce. This practice, known as parental alienation, often involves the combination of denied parenting time and negative talk about a parent.

If your ex proves what you have said to the court, especially if there is a history of denied visitation as well, that could affect your custody order or even lead to an unfavorable modification.

Your words can hurt your children

Kids identify with their parents. Anything that attacks the character of a parent could make a child feel insecure about themselves and alter how they behave. The words you use to describe your ex could impact how your children view their other parent and even how they view themselves.

They may internalize your words, or they might even repeat them to your ex. That could cause problems for you, including allegations of alienation and conflict with your co-parent. Sharing custody with your ex isn’t easy, but with the right approach, if it can be a functional solution for your family. Having experienced legal guidance can is very helpful.